“The grass isn’t greener, there’s just a different light shining on it.” -Anonymous

“The grass isn’t greener, there’s just a different light shining on it.” -Anonymous

Let’s think about this a second. We always think it’s better on the other side. The Joneses, yeah, they got it right. They got it all together. But we know better. They don’t have it all together. Actually it’s probably close to falling apart. But we don’t want that to happen either, do we? NO, we really don’t.

Be authentic.

No spin doctor here. Listen to this news. The Joneses DON’T have it all together. Stop worrying about the Joneses. Be authentic. Live your life. The life YOU were meant to live. Things in your life can change but in order for that to happen you need to change. You need a different light to shine. That light is your perspective. Your thought process.

“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

I could also add the quote “Comparison is the thief of joy”. Stop comparing. Live the life you were born to live. YOU. You are a Child of the Universe. YOU. Comparing is insecurity. Pure and simple. Be grateful for who you are and what you have. Even the simplest of thank you’s will carry you.

“Thank you for my legs, so I can walk to the bus to get to work.”

“Thank you for my ears, so I can hear the beautiful music in the elevator.”

“Thank you for my mother who shows me how to be compassionate.”

“Thank you for the friend who has shared her life with me.”

They will find you.

If you need to change something, change it. But after you change it, live in it for awhile where you’re at. Our behavior is only our habits… which we have formed… on autopilot. If you move on before changing your behavior, your troubles will follow you. They know your address. They WILL find you. Because they are YOUR troubles. Remember the definition of insanity – “Doing the same thing but expecting different results.”

The grass is greener because a different light is shining on it. Your light. Your refreshed and renewed light.

“Do it with GUSTO!”

“Do it with GUSTO!”

“Do it with GUSTO!”

How many of us are just going through the motions, strolling through life? Wondering at times… “I don’t even remember driving here.” or even deeper “How did I get here?” I mean “How did I get here–at this point in my life?” Minutes turn into hours. Hours turn into days. Days turn into weeks. Weeks turn into years. Then something happens. We wake up & wonder “How did I get here?” “What am I doing with my life?” Have you ever asked yourself that? In other words have you ever asked “Am I living my life with GUSTO?”

Brian’s short life.

The above quote “Do it with GUSTO!” was a favorite saying of my brother Brian. Brian did everything with gusto. His running, biking, academics, shenanigans, friendships, adventures (at age 17, he even rode a horse from Michigan to Kentucky!) Life was meant to be lived. And he lived it!

Thank God he did, because he didn’t live a long life. He died at 18 from a virus that attacked his young, strong, gusto-filled heart. Brian was my bestest brother. He was 10 years older than me, but we were always together. Actually, it was more like he let me follow him around everywhere.

Then, one day, he had a bad cough. I knew something wasn’t right that night. I stayed in my bed, wide awake, quiet as could be. Listening to that cough. My tall, Irish, Marcus-Welby-type physician father came home from “making rounds” and took a listen to Brian’s heart. Something was definitely not right. Two extra heartbeats… Four total… Not good… They immediately rushed Brian off to the hospital, which was the beginning of a painful journey for him and our family. My parents never to be the same again. Several months, several doctors and several hospital stays later, Brian lost his battle.

Brian was supposed to go here.

When I turned 18, life was very different for me. I was here. Brian was not. What would he have done had he kept on living? While I was on a particular college visit my Mom told me “Brian was supposed to go here.” Done. I knew right then and there that was where I too was supposed to go to school. My college experience influenced the rest of my life. The friends I met. The courses I studied. My college experience was full of GUSTO! That is one example of how Brian’s words influenced my life and still do today.

We’ve all heard it though…

“Live the life you dream!”

“Seize the day!”

But what are you doing about it? It’s time to wake up! Stop the ho-hum, the hum-drum. It’s time to live your life. NOW. It’s time to “Do it with GUSTO!”

So DO the thing you’ve been thinking about, because it will continue to nag you if you don’t. You won’t feel settled if you don’t do it.

GO on that trip that you’ve always wanted to take.

CLIMB that mountain that you’ve always wanted to climb.

COOK the seemingly impossible meal.

FIND the love of your life.

START the business you’ve always wanted to start.

But remember to LOVE yourself first. Because if you don’t love you, no one else will. And part of loving yourself, is by being true to you. You are here now. Brian isn’t. What a life he would’ve led! What a life he would’ve lived!

So get off the computer. Turn off your phone. Get out there. Breath the fresh air. Take in the blue sky. Listen to the birds. They are singing to you.

Live your life and “Do it with GUSTO!”